The Breakdown Before the Breakthrough

Have you ever experienced a moment where you are feeling overworked, exhausted or a lack of motivation?

We live in a society that tells us that we must find a way to sustain ourselves, build an accumulation of power, turn our creativity in to profit and be of some help to others. In this same society, there is an overemphasis of intellectualism, “following the herd” mentality and overworking. In this paradigm, there is this created image of success that glamorizes monetary wealth but sacrifices inner spiritual relationship to God and Self. This overexertion can cause one to feel undervalued, overworked and still yet, under-appreciated which of course makes way for one to experience something that many of us abhor – burn-out.

Burn-out literally feels the way it sounds, as previous innocent intention give away to others expectations or requirements of your behavior, work ethic or social responses. We begin to move in ways that we do not quite understand—like saying “yes” just to say “yes” and fearing the repurocutions (sp?) if we were dare utter our “no”. We begin to take jobs that we do not truly enjoy, simply so that we can “pay the mortgage”. We stay in relationships that no longer feed us for fear of being alone and/or undesirable. We pay attention to what others are doing because we don’t trust that we know what’s good for us and we hate ourselves for it. We begin to lie to ourselves about our innermost feelings because if we truly faced our sufferings we feel that we would crumble. Until one day—we do.

This is burn out. It’s the moment where you realize that you have walked way too far along the wrong path and still have not found a way back home. Feet burning, legs aching, you frantically run amuck in circles, searching for a kind place to lie your head, some semblance of peace but find only suffering. And that’s when you realize your suffering comes from a place where you can no longer hide—within yourself.

If you read any of this and began to cringe as if bugs crawled beneath your skin, I want you to know that you are not alone. Many people around the globe feel like this every single day. Many people have felt this way for years and still dragged their feet along a stubborn path to a home they knew was never meant for them. And they pay in their suffering, in their lack of self-worth or self-respect, in their meekness and frailness in spirit. They pay in their lack of and resentment of living.

This is a story we hear all too often. But aren’t you tired of hearing this story? Aren’t you tired of living it? I know I was. Burn out should not be shunned or quietly placed in the back of our pockets or the corners of our mind when we hear its shadows heavy foot steps, but invited in so that it can burn through foundations of a home that was never built on truth. Its fire rekindles a sense of surrender as it strips us away from false illusions and places us into our hearts. And through withstanding the pain of loss; of shame; of guilt; the freedom of truth—we are left to look at the pieces of material left in its dust and make the conscious decision to begin this process of starting anew. Of creating a home built from the vibrations of a child’s innocent laughter; walls painted in the love of our ancestors; brick by brick built from the strength of resilience; protected from prayers in tongue from holy mystics; dripping in the creative and loving spirit of The One.

And I…. well I am your neighbor helping you to put layers of brick upon brick, while sharing beautiful stories of women and men who made it their life’s mission to live well. To live honorably. To be authentic. Listening to your story, I am the one who reminds you that we are beyond our past, actively stitching together old wounds and forgiving ourselves for past ignorance. I am your neighbor sharing from the fruits of my garden, teaching you to plow, tend the soil, plant the seed and water natural life. In the hopes that my fruits and your growing fruits become our fruits sharing with one another recipes of old, basking in the wonderous blessings of living.

Welcome to the catalyst for your home-coming.

Welcome to the community healer.

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The Art of Being in Flow

Do you really trust your Creator?

Do you even trust yourself?

From self-observation, one will find there are many ego games at play all in one instance. When we talk of surrender, we literally mean the ability to be able to completely relinquish control— or the illusion of such in which we place our faith in the hands of our Creator. Surrender requires trust: understanding that God’s plans are much more unbounded and perfect than our own. Some may say that they find surrender on the mat in the midst of yoga. When one contorts their body into pretzel-like poses or even a simple leaning forward onto stretched out legs, feeling muscles pulse in their struggle to release its hold, break, tear and form deeper into this shape.

Or perhaps surrender comes during that moment in meditation where words become sparse and one begins to hear sounds circling around them. Listening to cars whiz by; laughter from children across the street at a playground; birds in flight, the wind carrying melodious chirps or; a slight ringing sound of silence. In those moments where oneself begins to blend with the world around them, the realization that separation is the mass hallucinogenic illusion we’ve all implicitly agreed upon becomes ever so clear.

Maybe surrender arrives in the midst of prayer. When a chant and intention becomes vibration—pulsating across a thousand membranes and cells implanting itself through muscle memory. Our voices mirroring the very tremors that shaped the universe. With Gods name heavy on our tongue, hearts begin to tremble at the humble awareness of the familiar essence of its Creator. Reverence becoming our name, we bow our heads in humility understanding our own creation and God’s mercy in manifesting us.

In reality, many humans have issues with surrender in many aspects of daily living. Perhaps it’s a trouble to commit to a routine, to acknowledge our imperfection, a negligence to pull ourselves from self-importance, a lack of humility, difficulty with bowing our heads in prayer or even admitting that we do not have all of the answers.

The lesson of surrender arrives in many forms; in many that we have endured during this very year. As difficult as it may get, I am keen to remember that surrender often arrives in places where God seeks to be revered. In these spaces, we are asked to drop the force of “personal will” to allow something much bigger and wiser than ourselves to emerge. We are joined with the force of nature which knows no illusory separation and fully submits itself to the will of the Creator, following His commandments. And due to this submission, nature poses as eternally and infinitely beautiful—a reflection of God Himself which stands as a reminder to those whom seek wisdom. This wisdom allows for us to reclaim the seat of our being, causing the to submergence into submission and reemerge of our likeness of God, thus returning to our own timeless divine nature. In this we never fear the illusion of death as we return to infiniteness.

Thus our very breath turning into a return, reverence and prayer to The Most High.

Accepting Responsibility

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You know the saying “with great power comes great responsibility”?

Each person is incarnated into this existence with an ego and a soul. The ego, operates in the form of “I”, which is important because it allows for us to have an experience of the world which is personable. In almost every religious and spiritual view, each person is fully liable and responsible for themselves. This means that each individual has personal accountability for acquiring each of their needs. The ego seeks to fulfill these needs through external means: validation, romantic love, money, fame, etc. This, as many people come to understand, is extremely problematic because external means are fluctuating, fleeting and conditional. For example, people give love at the capacity they are able to love themselves. In almost every instance, to give love to another human being is usually fully dependent on the individuals ability to find beauty, likeness, admiration and thriving “acceptable” traits in another person. This is the meaning of conditional love, which is fully dependent on the ability of the opposite person to fulfill one(or more) of the ego’s needs.

The soul, however, is believed to be derived from God/All That Is. In many Abrahamic religions, God has been said to have blown a piece of his Spirit into man and with that– completed His wonderful creation. Within this context, it is important to comprehend that the soul is whole on its own. It is timeless. It can love unconditionally because it is directly derived from a being whom is limitless and unconditional in His existence. Nevertheless, the only “need” the soul has is to be in connection with God. This need cannot be fulfilled by external means: it’s contentment is found in the acquisition, communion and connection to The One. And because God is everlasting, this wholeness is everlasting as well.

Why is this important? When attempting heal to core wounds, it’s important to fully comprehend their roots. For example, a person who’s experienced childhood abandonment often has a distorted view of fault vs. responsibility. Fault is the belief that you control others and the choices they make. Responsibility is the ability to take accountability independently of others. The ego of a young child experiencing abandonment has not yet matured enough to understand that the actions of others do not serve as reflections of their own worthiness. The ego takes fault and thinks to itself, “Their absence is a result of my doing. I must not be good enough” and experiences feelings of guilt, shame and fear, which confirm its self-imposed suffering. The person then grows up seeking validation from external means in order to prove its worthiness to themselves. But no matter how much validation they receive, it will not heal the core wound of unworthiness.

This story of lack in it itself is an illusion created by the ego. The fact is that no one thinks about you as much as you do. This means that other peoples actions are often self-serving and not a personal attack on another being. The journey of each person is to fight off mental attacks from the psyche and shatter the ego’s illusory perceptions. This takes time. If a person has been living in the ego’s illusions for years it will often take just as much time to unlearn their beliefs and rewrite their own reality. The wonderful thing about the human mind is that perception is individualistic to each being. While we are not responsible for the actions, ideals and perceptions of others we are responsible for ourselves. With this knowledge can come great relief; that our personal power is not dependable on another persons intrinsic reality—but our own.

The Psychology Behind Manifestation

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Its that time of year again. In between making plans for holiday events, running around searching for that perfect gift and figuring out what the hell your new year’s resolutions are this year- taking the time to sow seeds for the new year can seem damned-near impossible.

In lieu of this new age spirituality, talk of “manifesting your dreams into reality” has become extremely mainstream. The idea of manifestation and law of attraction is that by focusing on negative or positive thoughts the universe will bring corresponding negative or positive experiences into one’s existence. While this idea seems harmless enough, many people have trouble believing in it because it has little to no scientific research to back it up. However, in purely psychological terms, it is not uncommon to believe that one’s perception creates their reality.

One interpretation of this personal perception is called a self-fulfilling prophecy. Self-fulfilling prophecy is when our beliefs and expectations influence our behavior at the subconscious level. When this happens, our subconscious actually enables us to act out our beliefs and therefore, bring them into existence. In fact, in a study done by Pantich, D. & Jones, S.C (1971) they found that there is a tendency for individuals to act in a certain way to fulfill their prophecies or beliefs even when it comes to other people. In this particular study, in showing mutual attraction toward a stranger, person A would display positive actions according to their personal thoughts and beliefs that person B liked them. What did the results show? Well, results displayed that person B often would have more positive general feelings toward their partners! This resulted in both partners reporting that they had mutual increases in their personal evaluation of likeability in one another.

The key to understanding this phenomenon is that manifestation is a battle of both the mind and the action. It is imperative to have positive beliefs first because these beliefs affect your perception and then consequently, your actions. When your actions reinforce your beliefs these then turn into self-fulfilling prophecies or as we call it nowadays- manifestations.

So as mentioned in the beginning, it is the end of the year and the perfect time to sow the seeds for a positive, hopeful outlook on the new year. However, it’s not just enough to set goals and hope for the best. In order for your dreams to turn into reality, it helps for you to alter your belief system and perceptions around attaining them. As time has proven over and over again, change is an inside job first and then transmutes outward last.

Here are some tips on manifesting your best year yet:

Ask yourself: “what disabling beliefs am I holding about attaining my goals and dreams?”

You cannot manifest anything if you hold beliefs that are inevitably self-sabotaging your dreams. You need to assess if you are holding any disabling or negative beliefs about what you want to accomplish before you attempt to make your dreams into reality. Clear out your blocks first, then space will open up for newness to blossom next.

What enabling beliefs do I wish to replace the disabling ones with?

After going in and plucking all of those negative beliefs and ideas from its roots, take the time to replace them with new ones that will enable you to manifest the life that you desire.

How do I want my next year to feel?

It’s helpful to provide imagery of your perfect life, however, lasting results comes from being able to feel in your body what you want your experience to be. How do you feel when you are at your best – when you drop all identities and you are at your rawest, unfiltered, divine self? Maryam Hasnaa calls this feeling your home frequency. When you master naming this feeling, you are able to create situations you know is in alignment with YOUR truth.

For this, it helps to sit in meditation and envision imagery of your ideal self and life. Take notice of how your body feels. Does this imagery make you feel good? Do you feel happy? Is your heart pleased with this? Does it feel in alignment with your best-self, your truth? This is step is key for future reference because if the feeling in your body is in alignment or contradictory to the feeling you want to create, you will know because you’ve already studied what your home frequency is.

What steps will I take to make this next year feel like this?

After you study and master what your home frequency is, begin to create experiences that allow for you to embody that frequency. This is where you lay out the personal steps you will take in order to honor your truest self, purpose and divine nature.

As many psychologists and scientists have proven, reality is a construct that is filtered through one’s personal perception. So remember: mastering your reality will always begin with mastering yourself.

References: Panitch, D. Jones, S.C. The self-fulfilling prophecy and interpersonal attraction. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology. Volume 7, Issue 3. 1971.Pages 356-366. ISSN 0022-1031. https://doi.org/10.1016/0022-1031(71)90034-5.